Or Chayim Statement on A Wider Bridge and Jerusalem Open House Event at Creating Change

Or Chayim is deeply disturbed and alarmed by the disruption this past weekend of the A Wider Bridge Israel reception with Jerusalem Open House at the National LGBTQ Task Force’s Creating Change conference in Chicago, Illinois.

We unequivocally support Israel’s right to exist. We are committed to the Zionist belief that the Jewish people have the right to self-determination in their own national and historical homeland.

We are troubled by the videos and testimonials of LGBTQ protesters demonizing and calling for the annihilation of Israel. We condemn anti-Zionism and anti- Semitism in all its forms. As we have demonstrated over the last 2 years, we are committed to standing up for Israel in LGBTQ and non-LGBTQ spaces.

We have learned from Jewish history that the hatred of the Jewish people never fully goes away and we have vowed never again to remain silent. Israel has faced existential threats throughout its history and has the right to safety and security.

We condemn those who seek to silence, censor and shut down our voices. As Jews from Orthodox and traditional backgrounds, many of us have overcome tearful and painful journeys for the right to be seen and heard as LGBTQ in our families and communities. We promise to use that same determination to ensure our voices in support of Israel and the voices of our community partners, such as A Wider Bridge and Jerusalem Open House, will be seen and heard!


We praise the National LGBTQ Task Force, and its Executive Director, Rea Carey for condemning the anti-Semitism and anti-Semitic statements that occurred at Creating Change. We look forward to the improvements they are committed to implementing to ensure the safety of all future pro-Israel conference participants.

Oliver Rosenberg
Founder & President
Or Chayim


Or Chayim, is an independent start-up Jewish community of Orthodox, traditional and unaffiliated LGBTQ Jews and allies and is founded by Yeshiva University alumnus Oliver Rosenberg. Or Chayim offers inclusive Shabbat & holiday community experiences for its members and all are welcome. Its three-part Friday night experience consists of: an Orthodox minyan, a gala kiddush hour and a sit-down Shabbat dinner. Or Chayim has quickly grown since its inception in 2014 to attracting over 400 visitors to its congregation and monthly Shabbat dinners. It has monthly attendance of 70 people. Or Chayim’s complete support of Israel position is included on its website and can be found here. For more information, please visit

Our prayer service is countering growing disengagement

We are delighted to be mentioned in the Jewish Week, in an article about the opening of the JTS Block/Kolker Center for Spiritual Arts, as an alternative prayer service that is countering growing disengagement.

A Different Kind Of Prayer Education
Wed, 08/19/2015
Hannah Dreyfus
Staff Writer
Rabbinical students at JTS will experiment with different types of prayer at the new Block/Kolker Center for Spiritual Arts.

“According to Rabbi Uhrbach, the new center is intended to combat a “crisis of prayer,” a term coined by the late Abraham J. Heschel in his 1954 book “Quest for God.” The crisis is a growing disinterest in traditional liturgy and synagogue services, said Rabbi Uhrbach.

“Adults haven’t been offered models of prayer that reconcile contemporary understandings of God, or at least help people live with the paradoxical tension,” she said.

The “crisis” is reflected in the numbers. A March 2014 Pew Research Center study found that millennials are increasingly unmoored from institutions. Three in 10 young adults between 18 and 33 say they are not affiliated with any religion; the study found that millennials have the highest level of religious and political disaffiliation recorded, in comparison to the post-World War II, baby boomer and Gen-X generations.

A recent study by UJA-Federation of New York on voluntary dues in synagogues corroborated the Pew study’s findings, indicating that Jewish young adults are far less interested in affiliating with Jewish institutions than their older cohorts.

To be sure, efforts to counter growing disengagement with alternative prayer services have been gaining traction. Romemu, a Renewal-inspired congregation on the Upper West Side led by Rabbi David Ingber, often replaces conventional Shabbat services with yoga, ecstatic chanting and meditation. On its website, the congregation describes itself as “unabashedly eclectic” and a center for “Judaism that will ignite your Spirit.” The Institute for Jewish Spirituality, a educational organization in Lower Manhattan, hosts retreats and programming to deepen the spiritual experience of community leaders and laymen, and Or Chayim, an alternative, egalitarian Orthodox minyan on the Upper West Side, allows traditional members to celebrate religious milestones in untraditional ways. (This past Shabbat it celebrated the aufruf, or traditional Shabbat service before a wedding, of two gay members.)”

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The Jewish Week: A Different Kind of Prayer Education

Statement on the horrific synagogue massacre terrorist attack in Israel – November 18 2014

I felt shaken the entire day yesterday by the devastating news out of Israel.

We turn to houses of prayer to feel a sense of safety, community and connection. It is a place where we open up to G-d, make ourselves vulnerable and pray for health, sustenance and peace. The haunting images of worshippers wrapped in their talis and sprawled on the floor in pools of blood echoes images not seen since the Holocaust.

As we have come together this year to make our own place to pray and congregate, yesterday’s attack on a synagogue felt so violating. Arab terrorists killed five morning worshippers at Kehilat Bnei Torah Synagogue in Har Nof, Jerusalem and left another six people critically injured.

It is horrifying that these victims were attacked just as they finished the last blessing of the Amidah, the prayer for peace:  Sim Shalom Tova U’vracha.  שִׂים שָׁלוֹם טוֹבָה וּבְרָכָה     Grant peace, everywhere, Goodness and blessing.

We express our deepest sympathies and condolences to the families of these 5 murdered innocents.

Rabbi Moshe Twersky.

Rabbi Kalman Levine

Rabbi Aryeh Kupinsky

Rabbi Abraham Goldberg

and Zidan Sayif (the heroic Druze policeman who was the first on the scene and shot the terrorists).

We say as is customary, Baruch Dayan Emet. Blessed is the True Judge. For only he understands.

Additionally, we must pray for the injured victims who remain in critical condition at this time: Here are their Hebrew names:

Shmuel Yerucham ben Baila

Chaim Yechiel Ben Malka

Avraham Shmuel Ben Shaina

Eitan ben Sarah

Aryeh ben Bracha

We must remain optimistic and dream for peace and imagine a future someday where Jews and Arabs can live side by side peacefully.

The coming months, however, will be challenging as Israel faces an evil radical terrorist onslaught. “The murder of non-Zionist Torah scholars is an attack on Jews more than Israel, and explaining it requires an understanding of hatred, not of politics,” as the New Republic wrote last night in Politics can’t explain the Israeli synagogue attack. Only hatred can.

As LGBT Jews, Or Chayim expresses its unconditional and unwavering support for Israel. We have an obligation to stand with and support Israel both on the days when the world weeps with us and on the days when it is deafeningly silent or critical.

One can not answer for the numerous CNN headline gaffes yesterday. Nor can one answer why the White House sat quietly all Summer before finally acknowledging this week that Europe’s anti-Zionism is increasingly anti-Semitism.  Nor can one answer, why the White House decided in October to suspend its standards against civilian casualties in its new war in Syria and Iraq after criticizing Israel for civilian casualties all summer. There is hypocrisy in this world. And Israel like every Western democracy has an obligation to protect the hard-fought rights, liberties and freedoms of its citizenry.
We know that Israel is just and moral and that the majority of its citizens crave peace. And as Prime Minister Netanyahu says, if the Arabs dropped their weapons tomorrow there would be peace, but if Israel dropped its weapons tomorrow, there would be no more Israel.

Let us be proud that Israel only uses force when it is utmost necessary. Even then, as in this summer’s war with Gaza, Israel provided two advance warnings to each of its targets ahead of time. A tactic that was unprecedented in war. A tactic that limited civilian casualties. And a tactic that is a model for other nations to someday follow.

We must stand with Israel when it uses force to protect itself and/or root out terrorism.


In this week’s torah portion, Parshat Toldot, our forefather Jacob (also known as Israel) creates a lentil stew for the mourning of his grandfather Abraham (Genesis 25:29-30). The great medieval biblical scholar Rashi asks, “why serve lentils in mourning?” He answers that “lentils have no mouth, no openings. So too the mourner has no mouth. They can’t speak.” Mourners have no answers, they have no words to say. I feel the same way right now. We have no words to say for yesterday’s awful tragedy.

Yet Rashi cites an additional reason. “Lentils resemble a wheel, for mourning is a turning wheel in the world.” As the Talmud, in Bava Basra 16b, says “just as the wheel turns, so too, mourning goes around in an inescapable cycle, befalling the inhabitants of the world.” The Talmud continues that lentils are a consolation and reminder that mourning is not a constant.

The people of Israel are not known for carrying grudges. After all, mourning is not a constant. We move on.

Today the Kehilat Bnei Torah Synagogue in Har Nof, Jerusalem was open for services again.

And once again they are saying the blessing of Sim Shalom this morning. God bless our sacred liturgy that for generation after generation keeps its people optimistic and sustains us with the resiliency to pray for peace on the day after the most harrowing of horrors.

Let us keep that in mind and let us keep the names of those that are critically injured in mind as we pray with the entire nation of Israel for peace.

Oliver Rosenberg
President & Founder
Or Chayim

שִׂים שָׁלוֹם טוֹבָה וּבְרָכָה

חֵן וָחֶֽסֶד וְרַחֲמִים עָלֵֽינוּ וְעַל כָּל יִשְׂרָאֵל עַמֶּֽךָ

בָּרְכֵֽנוּ, אָבִֽינוּ, כֻּלָּֽנוּ כְּאֶחָד בְּאוֹר פָּנֶֽיךָ

כִּי בְאוֹר פָּנֶֽיךָ נָתַֽתָּ לָּֽנוּ ה’ אֱלֹקינוּ

תּוֹרַת חַיִּים וְאַֽהֲבַת חֶֽסֶד וּצְדָקָה וּבְרָכָה וְרַחֲמִים וְחַיִּים וְשָׁלוֹם

וְטוֹב בְּעֵינֶֽיךָ לְבָרֵךְ אֶת עַמְּךָ יִשְׂרָאֵל בְּכָל עֵת וּבְכָל שָׁעָה בִּשְׁלוֹמֶֽךָ

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’ הַמְבָרֵךְ אֶת עַמּוֹ יִשְׂרָאֵל בַּשָּׁלוֹם

Sim shalom tovah u-ve-raħa

Ḥen vacħesed ve-raħamim aleinu ve-al kol Yisrael amekha

Barkheinu Avinu kulanu ke-eħad be-or panekha

Ki ve-or panekha natata lanu, Adonai Eloheinu

Torat ħayim ve-ahavat ħesed, u-tzedaka u-ve-raħa ve-raħamim ve-ħayim ve-shalom

Ve-tov be-einekha le-varekh et amkha Yisrael be-khol et u-ve-khol sha’ah bi-shlomekha

Baruch atta Adonai, ha-mevarekh et amo Yisrael ba-shalom.

Grant peace everywhere goodness and blessing,

Grace, lovingkindness and mercy to us and unto all Israel, Your people.

Bless us, our Father, all of us as one with the light of Your face;

For by the light of Your face You have given us, Adonai our God,

The Torah of life, and love of kindness, and righteousness and blessing and mercy and life and peace;

And may it be good in Your eyes to bless Your people Israel at all times and in every hour with Your peace.

Praised are You, Adonai, who blesses His people Israel with peace.